Now I know what you're going to say, "I've got circumstances that are beyond my control". Yes, that may be true.
I do too to some extent. An example would be that I used to work with some people that were the most unashamed kiss-asses on the planet. If you know me (as not many people really know me) there is nothing I hate worse (except for pedophiles) than brown-nosing kiss-asses, and let me tell you, these people would get under my skin, every day.
So, what did I do about it? I made a conscious decision to think about other things. I can't control (even though I'd love to) these peoples behavior. I can't control how my boss favored them because of it. I could only choose the way I would deal with it. When I made that decision, I felt better about it.
Now, do I still hate the kiss-asses? Yes, yes I do...but I don't let them get to me. I get to choose how I feel, what I deal with or not, how I act and don't react. I choose my feelings, my happiness, my sadness. I choose.
When you realize that you have the choice, it can make your situation seem a little brighter...I mean, it's no cure for deep psychosis, but it's a place to jump off at. It's a good start. It's a day by day thing.
Another thing that I have found that works is a little thing we at DCM call the Vision Film.
What is a Vision Film? It's a short movie set to music that (through images and film footage) gives you the mental queues to think positive thoughts. It's a visual support system that helps you stay focused on the good things, good images and the path you wish to follow.
If you want to say, get back into shape, you could make a video showing images of people working out, while graphic (or auditory) feedback stimulates your brain with those ideas. It might show a picture of you when you were in good shape. Watching this film as a daily regimen would help you to visualize getting into shape, feeling good, or whatever else you wished to improve in your life.
Visualization is a very powerful tool. Using video and auditory stimulus to help bolster that visualization is even more powerful.
Sounds pretty cool huh? What if you don't know how to make a short film?
DCM can help you by designing a Vision Film tailored to your needs.
Contact us for a general quote.
Thanks JJC @ DCM